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Here you will find everything from my tales & truths, thoughts, and of course my views on life, love + everything in between.
Filled with truths, laughter, pain, and love, I hope you find the words you need.

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D Day—Part 2 {Guest Blog}
D Day—Part 2 {Guest Blog}

D Day—Part 2 {Guest Blog}

Posted on Location: 4 min read 275 views

Her: “If you want me to get a divorce, I will.” Him: “Lol. No, don’t do that.”

This was the day that all the puzzle pieces aligned, and everything had come together. I understood. I questioned. I drank. I crashed… fast and couldn’t escape the overwhelming emotional devastation. I demanded questions and her responses were so cavalier and casual. She was so unremorseful and nonchalant about the fact that she was cheating. What made matters worse at that moment was that her actions had surpassed the physical actions. She was ready to put the fate of our relationship in the hands of another human being.

The Good & The Bad—I Am Still GratefulThe Good & The Bad—I Am Still Grateful

The Good & The Bad—I Am Still Grateful

Posted on Location: 5 min read 407 views

I am not the type to wait for one day of the year to express my gratitude; however, out of the blue, I started to write, I mean, 2020 has been a funny year, so why not make the exception. Before I begin, I think I should warn you; the list you will read below is not going to be your usual list of things I am grateful for. The Good & The Bad—I am still grateful. I am speaking my truth, and there are some trigger points, drugs and sexual abuse.

A Beautiful Nightmare—Part 1 {Guest Blog}
A Beautiful Nightmare—Part 1 {Guest Blog}

A Beautiful Nightmare—Part 1 {Guest Blog}

Posted on Location: 6 min read 200 views

Have you ever been in a position where there are things that trigger you? A smell, a taste, the sound of someone’s voice or a sound? I have so many triggers; the littlest things can trigger memories, pains and feelings. There are some days where I can smell something, and a wave of depression takes hold of me. I’m sure the thought right now is, why would a healthy female have triggers like that, what could have caused it?

D Day—Part 1 {Guest Blog}
D Day—Part 1 {Guest Blog}

D Day—Part 1 {Guest Blog}

Posted on Location: 3 min read 195 views

I am likely not the best reference to speak on marriage and or the hardships of marriage … my marriage lasted four months at best. I always thought that when a commitment as sacred as marriage is made, that the commitment is preserved at all costs. I was naïve, and I had many real lessons to learn. I learned very early on that this was an unrealistic expectation, especially now that I have had the time to reflect on the years spent with that person.

A Much-Needed Attitude Adjustment

A Much-Needed Attitude Adjustment

Posted on 6 min read 513 views

2020 has given us many obstacles saturated with life lessons; however, for the most part, most of us question ‘why me’ instead of asking ‘why not me’. The truth is, we all require a much-needed attitude adjustment every now and then. We tend to feel as if our problems are an isolated incident or personal attack—as if the rain cloud is only ever over our head. It is easy to disregard our own negative tendencies when our plates are overflowing, life is hectic, and time seems to be on the decline instead of the rise. Life happens to all of us—there is no escaping that. 

Life’s Seesaw

Life’s Seesaw

Posted on Location: 5 min read 1259 views

Life’s seesaw propels us off the ground and allows us to oversee the playground of life; in the blink of an eye, we are down on the ground, and the next, we are up enjoying the high. It is important to know that the highs and lows of life are not always easy to adjust between; if you are anything like me, you know, a human being, then at least one point in your life you have secretly wished that you could be hidden and protected from the world by an invisible cloak like Harry Potter, but it just doesn’t work like that in the real world.

Is It Really Ok Not To Be Ok?

Is It Really Ok Not To Be Ok?

Posted on Location: 6 min read 1204 views

Ok, so how many times do we hear people say “it is ok not to be ok”—frequently, right? The thing is, many people will religiously recite this very encouraging statement, and then judge you for doing so. I know right, hypocritical.

Unfortunately, there will always be people who will not understand and of course, those that will judge you. You have no power over them so try not to take it on. Your life is yours.

COVID-19: The Struggle, Emotions And Overall Uncertainty Of How To Feel.
COVID-19: The Struggle, Emotions And Overall Uncertainty Of How To Feel.

COVID-19: The Struggle, Emotions And Overall Uncertainty Of How To Feel.

Posted on Location: 9 min read 1270 views

It was the best of times and the worst of times. Are we not currently living in these times? COVID-19 has me feeling the struggle, emotions and to be honest, an overall uncertainty of how to feel. IS it the best of times? Well, think about it. We live in the Digital Age—technology has granted us access to just about everything available on the WWW. Mobile phones have connected us in ways many of us never thought of, and this only increases as more apps are created. Granted, a large portion of the information that can be found on Aunt Google, Youtube Academy and other sources such as social media will not be accurate. In fact, during this pandemic, personally, I have seen countless altered “news” that has been shared and used to cause further panic. However, despite this, if you know what you are looking for coupled with common sense, you can find a wealth of information (in my opinion).

8 Things 2019 Taught Me About Life, People And Myself.
8 Things 2019 Taught Me About Life, People And Myself.

8 Things 2019 Taught Me About Life, People And Myself.

Posted on Location: 10 min read 1098 views

And just that, 2019 is drawing to a close, and it’s time to pack away the fine china used for Christmas for reuse next year. Everyone will be shifting their focus from gifting to others to buying for themselves as the stores announce their sales, and of course, the excitement that the New Year brings. As we steadily approach 2020, our timelines will be filled with posts emphasising how 2019 was filled with moments that made 2019 everyone’s best year thus far.  Meanwhile, some of us are flicking through our photo gallery and saved Snapchat memories trying to find an ‘Insta/Facebook-worthy’ post with a creative caption solidifying how great 2019 was for us. However, it doesn’t exist, or we feel like it doesn’t add up to everyone else’s posts.

Surviving The First Year Of Marriage: 7 Tips To Survive

Surviving The First Year Of Marriage: 7 Tips To Survive

Posted on 7 min read 1896 views

“We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.”
Cornel West

Surving the first year of marriage has been a journey. Today, 8th of November 2019, I celebrate my first year of marriage!! #WeMadeIt. “If you can make it through your first year of marriage, you two can get through anything.” These were the words that were said to me from a married friend of mine near the time of our wedding last year. At the time, I didn’t understand why the first year of marriage would be the hardest. I mean, we have been living together for our entire relationship, what difference would marriage make to our relationship?

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